This is the face of a mom who remembered Target's drive-up pick-up service this morning. She needed to work AND run errands during her 2 hr 45 minute "free block" and could not figure out how to get a hand soap refill and cotton balls (both Target specific) without getting sucked into a Target warp. She *may* have gotten on the app to have them delivered and then saw the drive-up option. In less time than it would have taken for her to walk into and out of the store, she had her items and was driving away. Having saved her family about 700% of the purchase price of the two items by avoiding entering the store...
This has me thinking about something I've been pondering a lot lately. Why is it that we have such a hard time asking for help as parents? There are 100,000+ resources out there, and they are often conflicting, but we still feel like we should find the one right answer for us in all that noise. The more parents I talk to, the more I see this theme. Wishing they had asked for help sooner, but feeling like they should have known what to do. They spend so much time going down the rabbit hole of googling and information, only to come out more confused and frazzled. And, now, I think our expectation that we can figure it all out has something to do with amazing things like drive-up pick-up at Target. Our lives have become so busy, that we can't even find time to go get hand soap (and during cold and flu season no less)! We expect to find immediate answers and that we will be able to manifest a solution. We're so used to finding an app or an article (or a blog post...) to solve our problem that we forget sometimes we actually need another person to help us. We forget that it's OKAY to need people, not just answers. And we have transferred this to parenting. Raising children is meant to be done in community. And not just with play dates and preschool outings, but with the hard parts. The (lack of) sleeping, feeding challenges and postpartum issues. It's ok to feel like you don't know what you're doing, you've never had this baby before! So, take a deep breath, give yourself a break and call a friend or acquaintance to come clean your kitchen and hold your baby while you take a nap. Then, have them run thru the Target drive-up for you. Winning.
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